Family Stressors

I find this topic fascinating because that is something that has been directly affecting our marriage in the recent weeks. My husband and I have been dating for seven years and were married last August. We were lucky and had that fairy tale ending, as most people describe it. In comparison to most serious stressors, my husband and I often reflect on troubles we had in the past with our long distance relationship and bring them into our marriage. I will admit, that is more of a problem that I struggle with than him. He has the mindset that the past is the past, while I still dwell on those times that I was hurt. This seems ridiculous, and realistically is ridiculous, because we are married and really it shouldn't matter. As a result, my husband and I have found methods to difuse any tension or stress by simply discussing how different our marriage is now compared to a silly teenage dating experience. Our outlook is different, because we are a team. I feel that if you always have that "team" mentality, you can overcome all stressors whether they be a death, finances, disobedient children, loss of employment, etc. you can tackle any trial put in your path. The adversary wants us to feel stressed and overwhelmed and feel like we have no way out, but we have our spouse, family, and the Lord to aid us through any difficult challenge put in our path.