Remarriage and Divorce

The new marriage or divorce of a parent or family member is difficult and brings significant changes. That feeling of intrusion is inevitable (if children from a previous marriage are involved) and can cause strife between individuals. A new marriage (after being previously married) can be hard because of old habits. A new spouse could feel inadequate and compared to the old spouse if mentioned frequently. Divorce on the other hand brings a wide variety of emotions. As a child, my father experienced 5 or more divorces between his two parents. It made my dad's self esteem drop, he blamed himself, and gained attachment issues because everyone he loved seemed to leave. Divorces make individuals question themselves and make them ask why they are not good enough for the other spouse. Depression is a direct effect of divorce, and it can take months or even years to get over it. Divorces can end pleasantly, but most often they are quite ugly. Nobody wants to go through a divorce unless it is completely necessary. In both new marriages and divorces, many people are affected and it can be an issue that will change lives forever.